Becoming a new mom brings great joy, excitement and moments of wonder – but it also brings a lot of new responsibility, worries, fatigue and stress. Parenting stress is very real. Even while we celebrate the beautiful, wonderful things about being a mom, it’s important to also pay attention to some of the things that can make the experience of raising infants so tiring and difficult – and try to better minimize and manage these sources of stress so moms can enjoy their lives with their babies!
Here are five things that stress new parents out and some tips for dealing with them.
Parenting is a team sport. It requires great communication, clarity on roles and responsibilities, mutual respect and a shared purpose and desire to win. However each team player has a unique skillset and when it comes to helping husbands and partners bond with your newborn, there has to be agreement on the positions they are covering. In a previous article, we talked about the importance of getting a father ready before the baby is born and discussed the challenges a husband might feel, but here are some practical words of advice to make the process easier.
Mothers try their very best to appear to be in control of their lives. They are warriors confronting all the challenges of their new role and showing confidence in spite of insecurity. They deal with contradictions and manifest skills and capabilities they never ever thought possible. They try to breastfeed as if they had been doing it forever, and reassure everyone that they “have everything under control.”
Even on the most difficult, exhausting days, it is important to see positive side of parenting and to keep things in perspective. Your baby is not going to be a baby forever. Every stage of infancy and childhood brings its own new developments and discoveries, and in time, your child will be more and more independent and able to explore and do more things for herself. Easier said than done!
Having a new baby in the home is often as overwhelming and puzzling for dad as it is for a mom. Especially with a first child, everything is happening in real time for the first time, which can be both exhilarating and exhausting. No matter how much friendly advice, pregnancy planning or breastfeeding “survival guides” a man reads in advance, the dynamic between mom and baby seems almost magical and impenetrable.
Naming your baby is one of the rites of passage of becoming new parents. Choosing a name is a special gift that will travel with your child through life. Many parents choose to name their babies after beloved people in their families, favourite characters from books and movies, or based on some other reminder that is unique and memorable.
Many women in our Medela Canada Facebook community are first-time moms who want to do everything “right” when it comes to raising their new babies. At the same time, they worry there are many aspects of motherhood that are completely new to them. It is natural to want to do the best for your baby, starting right from day one – but often it is better not to be too prepared.
Hello my love,
You have finally gone back to sleep after an hour of breastfeeding, changing, hugging, soothing our beautiful little baby. I am quite honestly in awe. I admit that just as you suspected, I slept through the first 30 minutes. However, I woke up in a daze when I heard you have a little cry and sigh as you snuggled back to sleep.
Toddlerhood is a time of innocence, wonder, and growth for children and their parents. It also poses some unique and often frustrating challenges. The toddler years are a time of great cognitive, emotional and social development, so there is a lot of energy and enthusiasm – to put it mildly!
You spend nine months planning, reading, preparing and imagining what life will be like with a new baby. Then when the birth is in the rear view mirror (and you did great!) you have this new little being in your arms and life suddenly gets a little bit more hectic, intense, joyous, and at times even a bit overwhelming!